Symptoms of Success

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Column By Robin Sharma
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What are The Symptoms of Success?

Just getting back from a tour of Malaysia and Singapore.
Beautifully diverse. I met a lot of successful people during
the sessions. And it occurred to me that despite their
different nationalities, faiths and businesses they all had
something in common. They had all overcome big setbacks. As
a matter of fact, their success was in direct proportion to
the size of the challenges they faced.

The big idea: setbacks are symptoms of success. If you are
not facing setbacks then you are probably not dreaming big
enough. If you are not experiencing setbacks you are
probably playing small with your life.

Without roadblocks there are no victories. Challenges forge
the greatness in you. They let you know what isn’t working.
They force you to be creative. They are the road to your NLG
(Next Level of Greatness).

So, the next time you face a setback take a moment to
celebrate. I know that roadblocks can be frustrating or
depressing or embarrassing. Yet, the best among us find a
way to keep on acting in the rainstorm of these emotions
(and like rainstorms, emotions eventually pass).

Think of the sales rep who makes the next call after a
rejection or the athlete who works as hard at physiotherapy
as their game when injured, or the student who changes their
study habits after a failed exam. They all keep moving
towards their mountaintop because they all know that the
path to their greatest life is never straight.

Here are some tactics for learning and moving on after a
setback.

Journal – Write about the challenge in your journal. Go
through your feelings. Uncover exactly what bothers you
most. Journaling helps you acknowledge your feelings and
turn them into energy.

Exercise – Working out releases endorphins and gives you a
sense of well-being. It also focuses you on something else
and gives you a small daily win which improves your energy
and confidence.

Find the Upside – After journaling and exercising you are in
a better state of mind to discover the opportunity. What
doors have now opened? How can solving the problem improve
your game?

Watch Your Highlight Reel – Think about the last time you
made it through a setback. What worked? How did you feel
when you moved on? Visualize your past successes. They’ll
give you the confidence to move on. They may also provide
clues to solving this problem.

Strategize – Create a plan. Find out a way to get the client
back, to find new love, to get stronger after an illness.
Whatever it is, planning will put you back in control. Then
include this plan in your schedule because what gets
scheduled gets done.
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Robin S. Sharma, LL.M. is an internationally-known speaker
on sales leadership, peak performance and creativity. The
bestselling author of several motivational books including
MegaLiving, he is the managing partner of Sharma Leadership
International. He can be reached at http://www.robinsharma.com

Taking Actions

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Column By Adam Khoo
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In the Ultimate Success Formula, we say that once you get clear on
what you want, you have to develop a strategy and start taking
action, consistent action every single day.

And when you take action, two things can happen. Number one, you
will achieve your goals, you move towards your goals, or you get
feed back, which you will then use to change your strategy and keep
taking action again and again until you get what you want.

So, the key to getting results is really in taking action. In fact,
if you look at Ultimate Success Formula, the one thing that most
people do not do is that they do not take action.

The results you are experiencing in your life right now are truly
determined by the past actions you have taken. If you are
experiencing great results right now, it is because in the past you
have taken the actions. You took the action on making the calls,
managing your time, following through and learning from your
mistakes.

At the same time, if right now you are experiencing average
results, or below average results, it is because you have either
not taken the necessary action or did so, but soon gave up. You did
not make those calls consistently. You never followed through. You
said you would do it, but you do not do it. You did not
consistently execute your plans. Or worse still, you did not even
plan at all.

You can set all your goals, you can come out with all your great
plans, but if you do not act on those plans consistently, nothing
ever happens. Whereas when you take action, even if you use the
wrong strategy, pretty soon, by taking enough action, you will find
a way on how to get it done. And, so we say that actions produce
results.

Take action today!

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In Loving Memory

Thanks for all you’ve done
I’ve missed you for so long
I can’t believe you’re gone
You still live in me
I feel you in the wind
You guide me constantly

I’ve never knew what it was to be alone, no
Cause you were always there for me
You were always there waiting
And ill come home and I miss your face so
Smiling down on me
I close my eyes to see

And I know, you’re a part of me
And it’s your song that sets me free
I sing it while I feel I can’t hold on
I sing tonight cause it comforts me

I carry the things that remind me of you
In loving memory of
The one that was so true
Your were as kind as you could be
And even though you’re gone
You still mean the world to me

I’ve never knew what it was to be alone, no
Cause you were always there for me
You were always there waiting
But now I come home and it’s not the same, no
It feels empty and alone
I can’t believe you’re gone

And I know, you’re a part of me
And it’s your song that sets me free
I sing it while I feel I can’t hold on
I sing tonight cause it comforts me

I’m glad he set you free from sorrow
I’ll still love you more tomorrow
And you will be here with me still

And what you did you did with feeling
And You always found the meaning
And you always will
And you always will
And you always will

Ooo’s

And I know, you’re a part of me
And it’s your song that sets me free
I sing it while I feel I can’t hold on
I sing tonight cause it comforts me

Death as a Reminder

Headline on today newspaper “Grief, tributes for dragon boaters”

http://rememberingjerbroni.blogspot.com/

Life is vulnerable. We can die anytime. ANYTIME.

In other sections of the newspaper, “dam collapses at chinese mine:six killed” , “seven dead as typhoon approaches philippines”…and many more. Foreign news.

Why is it that when Singaporeans met with mishaps, there are a big news on it?? Because we take things for granted.

Life is too short to quarrel over who is going to wash the dishes.
Life is too short to be angry with ur parents for touching ur stuff.
Life is too short to be angry with ur bf/gf when he/she arrive late for the date.
Life is too short to waste time hating people.
 

Life is too short NOT to be happy.
A simple life can be happy and rewarding.

I still rmb vividly my father’s death. Its ard this time.  Things have not changed much. Promises were not kept. im ashamed of myself.

i dun understand why u can completely ignore me..when u can talk and laugh with other ppl. I need ur support when things get tough. muz u really treat me so differently? im not ur fren also? 

Im pissed. Im affected. I hate it when ppl died for no reason.

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

source: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html

1)Words of Affirmation
Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”  Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to persons whose primary Love Language is “Words of Affirmation.”  Simple statements, such as, “You look great in that suit,” or “You must be the best baker in the world! I love your oatmeal cookies,” are sometimes all a person needs to hear to feel loved.

Aside from verbal compliments, another way to communicate through “Words of Affirmation” is to offer encouragement.  Here are some examples: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation,” offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

2)Quality Time
Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.

An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.
Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.

3)Receiving Gifts
Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate. Luckily, this love language is one of the easiest to learn.

If you want to become an effective gift giver, many mates will have to learn to change their attitude about money. If you are naturally a spender, you will have no trouble buying gifts for your mate. However, a person who is used to investing and saving their money may have a tough time adjusting to the concept of spending money as an expression of love. These people must understand that you are investing the money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate.

The gift of self is an important symbol of love. Sometimes all your mate desires is for someone to be there for them, going through the same trials and experiencing the same things. Your body can become a very powerful physical symbol of love.

These gifts need not to come every day, or even every week. They don’t even need to cost a lot of money. Free, frequent, expensive, or rare, if your mate relates to the language of receiving gifts, any visible sign of your love will leave them feeling happy and secure in your relationship.

4)Acts of Service
Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. Just as Jesus demonstrated when he washed the feet of his disciples, doing humble chores can be a very powerful expression of love and devotion to your mate.

Very often, both pairs in a couple will speak to the Acts of Service Language. However, it is very important to understand what acts of service your mate most appreciates. Even though couples are helping each other around the house, couples will still fight because the are unknowingly communicating with each other in two different dialects. For example, a wife may spend her day washing the cars and walking the dog, but if her husband feels that laundry and dishes are a superior necessity, he may feel unloved, despite the fact that his wife did many other chores throughout the day. It is important to learn your mate’s dialect and work hard to understand what acts of service will show your love.

It is important to do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. A mate who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It’s important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart.

Demonstrating the acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both mates to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren’t usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.

5)Physical Touch
Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.

Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches.

It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.

All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.

It is important to remember that this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other’s dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.

@The author pointed that each of us has two basic love languages. What are yours? Mine is words of affirmation and act of service. Simple things touched me the most!!

IA Food outing

My IA colleagues are such bunch of fun ppl..

 we went to Amara hotel for international buffet, (sponsored by company)

then another day went to Chong Qing steamboat for buffet (sponsored by Ee Bin)

And this sat going rice table.. (sponspored by yuan kwang?)

Here are the pictures……

 

CATS!

I got these pictures from this website http://splitzosally.spaces.live.com/

din really go read her blog..juz saw the cute pics of the cats. i like the last one.

Prioritize your life

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Column By zac the man
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Control your time to control your life!!!

This is my first entry on “success principles”. Do drop me some comments.

I believe in the concept of managing your time according to your goals. Thats what we meant by
“Goals Oriented Actions” For example if your goal is to lose 5 kg within 3 months, then obviously heading for a weekend buffett is NOT a goal oriented action. SO, dont do it!

Whenever you are abt to do something, or decided upon something, think “Goal oriented”. Will my actions help me achieve towards my goals? Or pull me away from it?

Below is a very useful priority chart. The 4 quadrants depict on how you are going to spend your time on individuals stuff.
They are in order of importance. P1 has the highest priority and P4 has the lowest.

 

 

For example, if one of your 2008 goals is to have 3A  for your studies. Then studying for a quiz the day before is considered P1. Revising for exams on a daily basis is P2. Things which are urgent yet not goal oriented are the most irritating. Things like paying for a long overdued bills, and brining ur sick dog to the vet are P3. Lastly, playing computer games and watching tv are definitely P4.

Do more of P2 stuff and less of P4 stuff. Bear in mind ur long term goals and take a small step towards it daily. P1 and P3 are almost considered “die die must do” stuff. However P3 can be reduced with proper planning or organization. (will be discussed in other columns)

Lets do it today. Plan ur daily schedules according to the priority chart. ho ho ho!