Have u ever…?

Have u ever like a girl, and u are afraid that she mind ur past?

I know i had not been a good guy/boyfriend/friend in the past. Im guilty over these.

I have changed.

Your Priority in life.

Ｌ小姐和Ｍ先生是一對戀人，兩人隔河而居，那條河不寬，也不闊。

有一天，Ｍ先生得了急病，Ｌ小姐知道了心急如焚，但是那一天出現了暴風雨，河水暴漲，風急雨勁，Ｍ先生叫她不要去探望他，可Ｌ小姐還是要不顧一切去看看他。

　　

於是她去找Ｂ先生，因為Ｂ先生有一條船，有能力送她過河。可是，Ｂ先生卻要收過河費一百萬，即使她向他解釋Ｍ先生的情況，他也一樣不為所動。Ｌ小姐當然沒有那麼多錢，

 

於是她去找Ｓ先生，因Ｓ先生也有一條船。豈料，Ｓ先生竟是無恥之徒

他要求Ｌ小姐獻上她的肉體，方才載她渡河。Ｌ小姐為了愛情，最後犧牲了自己……最後，Ｓ先生也載了她過河。

　　

Ｍ 先生的急病，最後也沒有惡化，是化險為夷了。但當他知道Ｌ小姐居然 犧牲了自己的貞節，他很生氣，因為他早已吩咐她不要來，何況還因此犧牲了肉體！

 

 於是，Ｍ先生和Ｌ小姐就這樣分手了。

　　

Ｌ小姐很傷心，不久之後，他認識了年紀較大的Ｆ先生。當他知悉了她的過 去後，不但不介意，還向她示 愛。雖然Ｌ小姐並不太愛Ｆ先生，他也不太勉強 …

　　問題來了：　　  參考故事內容，然後從故事的五位人物 ，Ｌ,Ｍ,Ｂ,Ｓ,Ｆ  The character u like most put as NO. 1 ..the one u hate most as NO. 5.

      The results of this test will be revealed later! ho ho ho!

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

source: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html

1)Words of Affirmation
Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”  Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to persons whose primary Love Language is “Words of Affirmation.”  Simple statements, such as, “You look great in that suit,” or “You must be the best baker in the world! I love your oatmeal cookies,” are sometimes all a person needs to hear to feel loved.

Aside from verbal compliments, another way to communicate through “Words of Affirmation” is to offer encouragement.  Here are some examples: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation,” offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

2)Quality Time
Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.

An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.
Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.

3)Receiving Gifts
Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate. Luckily, this love language is one of the easiest to learn.

If you want to become an effective gift giver, many mates will have to learn to change their attitude about money. If you are naturally a spender, you will have no trouble buying gifts for your mate. However, a person who is used to investing and saving their money may have a tough time adjusting to the concept of spending money as an expression of love. These people must understand that you are investing the money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate.

The gift of self is an important symbol of love. Sometimes all your mate desires is for someone to be there for them, going through the same trials and experiencing the same things. Your body can become a very powerful physical symbol of love.

These gifts need not to come every day, or even every week. They don’t even need to cost a lot of money. Free, frequent, expensive, or rare, if your mate relates to the language of receiving gifts, any visible sign of your love will leave them feeling happy and secure in your relationship.

4)Acts of Service
Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. Just as Jesus demonstrated when he washed the feet of his disciples, doing humble chores can be a very powerful expression of love and devotion to your mate.

Very often, both pairs in a couple will speak to the Acts of Service Language. However, it is very important to understand what acts of service your mate most appreciates. Even though couples are helping each other around the house, couples will still fight because the are unknowingly communicating with each other in two different dialects. For example, a wife may spend her day washing the cars and walking the dog, but if her husband feels that laundry and dishes are a superior necessity, he may feel unloved, despite the fact that his wife did many other chores throughout the day. It is important to learn your mate’s dialect and work hard to understand what acts of service will show your love.

It is important to do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. A mate who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It’s important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart.

Demonstrating the acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both mates to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren’t usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.

5)Physical Touch
Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.

Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches.

It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.

All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.

It is important to remember that this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other’s dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.

@The author pointed that each of us has two basic love languages. What are yours? Mine is words of affirmation and act of service. Simple things touched me the most!!

CATS!

I got these pictures from this website http://splitzosally.spaces.live.com/

din really go read her blog..juz saw the cute pics of the cats. i like the last one.

Ultimate 减肥 plan

I have decided to set some rules for myself..in order to 减肥。

Here are the rules.

1)白天多喝水 – Drink one big glass of water when i wake up in the morning.
2)晚上少喝水 – Do not drink water after 9pm.
3)一天不喝多于两杯咖啡 – NO more than 2 cups of coffee a day!
4)从晚上十点半睡到早上六点半 – Sleep from 1030pm to 630pm
5)晚上八点后少吃大餐 – NO food after 8pm!!!
6)不准吃油腻的食物 – Do not eat oily or fried food.
7)每周跑步四次,每次要超过半个小时- Jog 4 times a week, each time must more than 30minutes~
8)举重一星期两次- Weights training TWICE a week.
9)多吃水果，少吃饭-Eat MORE fruits and less rice!

yup..its super irony..esp when the next post is abt food!!!

@ho ho ho! i need all of ur support to help me lose weight! thanks!

igoogle

can u believe it?!!! this is my internet HOMEPAGE! im so googleized lor…

This is wat it is about:

iGoogle (formerly Google Personalized Homepage) is a customizable homepage originally launched in May 2005. Updates include the capability to add web feeds and Google Gadgets (similar to those available on Google Desktop).

Never underestimate the power of google…Hee..

@its THE FRIDAY today…soccer tmr! yeah… it feels so good to be missed by someone.

So proud of my mum…

 

my mum is really super carrer woman lor…

 this week, she was headhunted by a company which is going to be setup in singapore. mind u..my mum is close to 60yrs old liao..and she only got a degree in ntu in economics from ntu.

im so proud of her.

i rmb that time, when she resigned from her 2nd job (which she worked for ard 25yrs.), she received tons of gifts lor..i think  got abt 40 presents.

she is so popular lor…

@my mum continues to work because of me. im so fortunate to have a mother who sacrificed herself for me. thanks. i luv u mummy.

Be strong, my meowish friend.

MEOW! ha ha…

my beloved meowish fren, got into some kind relationship problem recently. i kind of scolded her first. .(*a bit guilty here..)

juz make me realised how evil guys can be….to make girls fall into their traps!!! Er xin rite?

@Sophia, we are concren abt u lor….Be firm k. And..you know it: You deserve better!